I Remember

I Remember is a collective biography of grief and loss in the 21st century.

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Covid-19 and the Effects of Touch Deprivation

Article published in the Guardian (07/08/20) by Amelia Hill on how the lack of touching is impacting our mental health and in particular those living alone.

A Telephone for Grief

A grieving resident of Otsuchi in Northern Japan placed an old telephone booth with a disconnected phone in his garden so that he could dial the number of his dead cousin. After the tsunami took the lives of 1,284 people, thousands of mourners begun to visit the phone booth to speak to their loved ones.

The Science of Grief

All the Things We Have to Mourn Now

Six experts discuss the “new faces of grief” in the age of the coronavirus pandemic in this article in The Atlantic (01/05/20). From the trauma of not being able to be by our loved ones’ sides as they die in hospital or to gather for funerals, to the more widespread anxiety caused by the loss of our plans, jobs, and sense of collective security, the article explores these new forms of loss and our need for creative solutions in the current crisis. The piece includes references and links to a variety of recent books and articles on grief and loss in minority communities, on the science of bereavement, and on ambiguous (unresolved) grief.

Series of Lego Sets

Lego in collaboration with Bestattungsmuseum, the Funeral Museum in Vienna’s famous central cemetery – designed to help young visitors better understand funeral settings. Displayed in the Griefmobile.

Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds – Ghosteen

Topography of Tears by Rose-Lynn Fisher

In her project the Topography of Tears Rose-Lynn Fisher photographed these tears during a period of personal change and loss. She found that each of the categories include distinct molecules and look completely different. Emotional tears have also been found to contain the neurotransmitter leucine enkephalin, a natural painkiller that is released when the body is under stress.

Joan Didion – The Year of Magical Thinking

Joan Didion’s book The Year of Magical Thinking, the book which started a new writing genre about death and mourning. Utterly exquisite.

Here Lie the Secrets of the Visitors of Green-Wood Cemetery – Sophie Calle

Through this public project, artist Sophie Calle invites visitors to confess their innermost secrets. The project begun in 2017 and will finish in 2042. Well worth a visit if you happen to be in New York and have secrets to confess. #HereLieSecrets

How to handle bereavement in school

A useful article by Joanna Moorehead for the Guardian (12/05/2020) on the role teachers will have in helping grieving children when they return to school. The article also includes suggestions on how to help children even in lockdown and an interview with Phoebe Gilbert, the writer of the book Loss: a Little Book of Bereavement for Schools.